After a heated discussion on another site, I thought I'd pose a bit of a quandry on here and see if I could get some sensible and unsensible answers.
Myself and Jason only have 3 rules in our swinging life. Safe sex always. No one else cums in my gob and he doesn't cum in someone else's gob (its technically 1 rule!!) AND ........
No Kissing
Now......... this has caused a bit of a stir on another site due to the nature of the people on there. Most are saying that they would never meet couples who do not kiss because it's more erotic!
However, those of you that use this forum know I've not been with Jason very long and married to him for only 3 weeks and I suppose that kissing is [b]ours[/b], an emotion that we seperate from our swinging life.
Could you therefore please tell me, would a No Kissing rule put you off meeting a couple and do you find it an antiquated rule. Or, do you agree with the rule as an emotional tie?
Thoughts please .......
Maddie
No, that's fine, I wouldn't want to kiss Jason anyway... :bounce:
I think it's like everything else, you go with what you're comfortable with at the time and in the mood. No-one here's looking to break up a relationship, so at the end of the day, it's what you and he are happy to do.
Have fun, above all else!!!
xxxx
Hey chick xx
Chris has expressed a heart felt no to kissing by either of us with ,typical man,on the double edged sword,he loves watching me and another girl kissing each other erotically....so,go figure...... M xx
Aaahhh but Chelle my lovely.....
Chris, like most men, has a perverted, deviant side that just loves watching two women!
I don't mind kissing other women, Jason loves to watch me do that, but I'm a tad pissy about the fact that there appears to be heaps of women out there who won't play because Jason won't kiss them!
Go figure that something so simple can be such a problem!
Oooohhh and brian...... I can still see straight up ya kilt !!! lol
We do allow kissing Mad but that is our would not be put off meeting a cple just because they have a no kissing rule in the end it all comes down to respecting peoples boundries. As for the antiquated rule question no because swinging is all about what you are comfortable with and it's your own personal choice to have this rule ,again tis a matter of respecting other peoples boundries.
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Oooohhh and brian...... I can still see straight up ya kilt !!! lol[/quote]
What are you saying? You want to give me a kiss up there??? :happy::giggle:
Maddie, it wouldn't bother us either. Most people have there rules, and if people dont like it then there not worth meeting. You guys stick to your guns. :small-print:
We started out with a no kissing rule! Don't know what happened to it! lol.
It wouldn't put us off at all if we met a couple with a no kissing rule because we completely understand where it comes from.
Mad i think no kissin is a great idea as i met a couple and the lady kept kissin me and she had really bad breffff phew. It was a bit of a turnoff.
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I think it is defo up to people to respect your boundaries and if they don't like it you don't meet, as straight forward as that. However...my personal view is that it would be very hard to meet people intimately and NOT kiss them, it's all part of the foreplay, eroticness and excitement and it would be strange for me to say yes we can have full on sex but not kiss, it's all part of it.
Kissing is quite important to me, it's the biggest turn on of all.. While i respect your preferences, i probably wouldn't bother arranging a meet with someone who specifically said no kissing.
Madchick,
We have the same rule too. As erotic as kissing is we feel it's something just for us, something special we save just for the two of us. It kind of separates our swinging from our love for each other. But we can kiss everywhere else! Just not on the mouth.
And yes, like most men, it's absolutely OK for the girls to kiss... mmmmmmmmmmm,lol.
And for those that insist or no meet, then we say sorry but no meet. It's a small boundary we have set and we always respect others limits therefore expect the same...
We're happy with the rule, we have fun and we know our friends do too!
x x x
Oh dear - I've got to declare myself in the "no kissing, no meet" category. Kissing is such a pleasurable experience, and such a part of the build-up and turn-on for me that I couldn't get aroused without it.
I know lots of couples do feel it's simply too intimate, and I understand that. As has been said already, each to their own. No kissing, though? Not for me I'm afraid
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Suds
hey mad
we too have had this debate many times. although we do not impose rules on each other, we accept other peoples boundries. if it feels right for either of us, we will do it. kissing is an important part of what we get out of this this, but it would not be a reason to not meet others.
mmmmmm now theres a thought, we should all get together and have a mas debate about it lol
Thank you all for your input......... I think the mass debate (knickerless obviously) is a dam good idea... I can see something happening at MK3 - but obviously, I am only allowed to snog ALL the women! lol
I did pick up on one point....
[quote] is that it would be very hard to meet people intimately and NOT kiss them[/quote]
To me, this is the crux of the matter. My version of the word [b]intimately[/b]and others versions possibly differ wildly.
To me, swinging is not what you would call conventionally intimate. Yes, we get our clothes off and yes we have sex. Thats erotic, basic and animal like. To me, intimacy is about laying in bed in someones arms, soemone stroking my hair or holding me when I'm blue, holding my hand when taking a walk etc.... and yes.. kissing
Maybe myself and jason are missing the point but obviously, what each and every one of us gets out of swinging is different. To us its fun, plain and simple fun. To others, its obviously something more!
Ooohh and True...... why keep your mouth shut now, your own opinion is just that, your own opinion.
mad
you are dead right , we are all different, have our own ideas of what we all want out of this lifestyle. when it comes down to it, there is no right or wrong answer.
see you all at mk3 for the mass debate xxxx
Like we said earlier we used to have the no kissing rule, I felt the need to make the rule after a bad experience at a club.
Now I see things differently, Kissing on meets is not the same as kissing Mork, In the same way that sex on meets is sex, whereas with Mork it is much more.
Dont know why I am throwing our two penneth worth in Maddie as you have been with us so to speak from the beginning :happy:
But the kissing debate has reared its head more than once in this household when it comes to swinging.
We set our rules a long time ago and it included a 'No kissing' rule. This stayed in place a long time until it got fudged one day :embarrased2:
Now we are more comfortable with the lifestyle we have revised the initial rules and although the no kissing is still in place its not a rigid rule and depends on the situation :smoke:
If they are your rules they are yours and you shouldnt feel you have to compromise them because others dont have the same outlook on what is essentially a hobby and not a way of life :rose:
Controversially it seems the no kissing no meet has been said by predominantly single males so far, be interesting to see if this is the case as the debate goes on :wary:
OK I get what your saying about the definition of the word "intimately" and yes I kiss other men on meets because it's erotic, I find it hard to imagine how you go about the fun of a meet without including some kissing, but on a meet it's erotic fun and a turn on, but with PD I have 20 years of history and we know each other inside out, PD finds it a massive turn on as well seeing me kissing another man, mind you he'd find it a turn on to see me kissing a woman as well but that hasn't happened. :lol2:
Thats the difference sm-pd
Myself and Jason don't find kissing erotic, we find it an intimate pleasure. Something for us and us alone.
In fact, I've always had the no kissing rule in place, regardless of who my partner has been!
We class swinging as fun with sex. We don't need to snog other couples to get turned on. That can be achieved through laughter, oral or sensuous touching. Jason gets turned on by seeing other men fuck the living daylights out of me but kissing is our intimacy level and he'd go barmy if he thought I was getting intimate with another guy.
I'd rather give another bloke a blow job to get him hard than to try and snog his face off, but like I've said all the way along.... thats me!
However, I will say, we have never turned anyone down for their rules other than if they insist on bareback (cus thats just stoopid).
We always respect others limits and if no kissing applied we simply would not be having that meet.
We both enjoy a good erotic snogging session, whether or not we have the full blown fuckathon too!!...lol
We set out with some rules at the start of our swing adventures several years ago, but over time we have become more relaxed in the application..
Although, through experience, we have adopted a new rule in that when we have a stayover with new 'friends' one of us won't drink so we have the option to return home if we choose...
But whatever floats your particular boats, take care and have fun...
Jel & N
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We do kiss others on meets, however there's nothing we love more than snogging eachother so if we have a meet and the no kissing rule applies to that couple then we respect that 100%. The same applies to soft or full swapping. The concept of swinging for us is being with like minded people and sharing intimate times with them and making some good friends along the way, with no pressures whatsoever. That's it in a nutshell for us. :love:
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Madchick, we can totally understand where you are coming from......each individual and couple has there rules and boundaries and everybody must show a mutual respect......just because everyone elses ideas seem right to them.....doesnt mean that you have to conform.
Although we agree that kissing sometimes heightens the passion there is also a part of us that feels on occassion that it can be almost too intimate. Although without kissing it may feel that something is lacking but it depends on the couple, the circumstances etc etc......but despite everything you should only do what you are comfortable doing and people should respect that.
We have boundaries and sometimes that has put people off meeting us, but hey, it just means they werent the right people for us.....but I agree with you Madchick sometimes it does make you wonder whether you are the odd ones out!!
Ceylon hun......what can we say, totally on our wavelength and you are a prime example on how we should all conduct ourselves and accept everyones rules and boundaries......GOOD ON YA!!!! xx
Steph & Danny xxx:thumbup:
:happy:what cams said lol...... seriously we couldn't add any more... if we really like a couple then their boundaries deinately wouldn't put us off meeting them...equally that works both ways...that's why we don't meet off the cuff after a five minute chat but prefer to get to know people a little and get a feel as to whether there's a connection there... pleased to say we think we've found a few connections so far .... roll on mk
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mmmmmmmmmmmmm iv bin ponderin ova this one..:fuckinghell:.....wen i was wiv twat hed, he thought it was okey cokey to kiss(him fem and me fem and male) and i was ok doin this....:laughabove:
:inlove:but since iv bin wiv funforuandme, we hav both decided that its very sexy and very intimate and shud be kept jus 4 ourselves:love:.........altho.....he has sed that he has no probs wiv me kissin sexy ladieeees......no surprise there.....:lol2:
which im pleased about cus i love feelin a ladies soft lips kiss mine, they r so gentle and excitin and i love the sexy feelin of bein naughty!!
but guys, if u see me out, u can still kiss me:rascal: but dont xpect a full on snog!!:lol2:
and i dunno if sum of u kno but my biggest fantasy is to watch sexy guys kissin......so feel free to grab funforuandme!
funkyD xx:P
[quote user=madchick]I lluurrrrrvvveeee you Funks...
Twated or not, you said it better than I ever could
Expect large smoochies at MK3.... from me!!!![/quote]
i luv u 2 sexy mads.............and i cant wait 4 me snog!!
(and thanx 4 friday........ur like me big sis...lookin afta me....and it means alot....MWAH)_
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but guys, if u see me out, u can still kiss me:rascal: but dont xpect a full on snog!!:lol2:
and i dunno if sum of u kno but my biggest fantasy is to watch sexy guys kissin......so feel free to grab funforuandme!
funkyD xx:P