[quote user=fruitmedley]Jels, you put it so well, and I just waffled lol.
I have been witness to a friend whos home life was totally wrecked by a swinging partner(male). His home life and his childrens life has all fallen through. He ended up sleeping on the sofa for half a year and councilling/ relate kind had to follow.
Think about this. Is it worth it to loose everything you have at home? Your wife, your family and respect, all for some fun on the side?
Single ladies (if that is what you are looking for) often will not meet a man who is going behind someones back to do this.
I would suggest for oyu to concentrate on what is missing from your home life and find that again instead of having your cake and eating it.[/quote]
Fruit I can't agree with you more. I am one of those single girls who will not meet married men on their own (ie without the wife!), and in fact I have even added that to my profile some time ago.
Trust and honesty to me is THE MOST important thing in a relationship and I take the vow of marriage very seriously, even though I have never been married myself. But as far as I am concerned if you do not have trust and honesty then you have fook all.
I am a firm believer that if people feel the need to play away from home without the knowledge of their partner then there is something inherently wrong in the relationship.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not about to question or judge everyone's personal situations or choices, but I am just expressing my own personal views and opinion. But everyone has their own personal reasons why they do what they do and they are all completely different. I personally know someone who who has affairs behind his wife's back because he KNOWS that if he were to leave her then the chances of him seeing his young children on a regular basis will be practically ZIP! Now I would never condone his behaviour but I do understand his reasons (and believe me I UNDERSTAND- if you met his wife you would too - even though I don't necessarily agree).
I do think though that many people are too quick to judge sometimes. Like Confuscius says "Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away--and barefoot". But I just think you need to stick to your own personal principles in life, yet realise that not everyone lives the same life as you.
Ok my life coaching session is over....lol
Fruit I reckon I am joining your waffling club!!!
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:(:(:(Good idea guys ... we tend to go for premier inns with pub attached, if you book online you can cancel up to 2pm on the day without penalty but we're sure there must be better and cheaper ones out there lol ... stayed at a couple of holiday inns too which are a bit more expensive but better facilities although beware ... if you book online they take the payment straight away and if you cancel then you still pay ... debs and paul xxx
Ok so what really peeves you off? or what rocks ya' boat?
For me I loathe rude and ignorant people, good manners cost nothing after all.
On a more positive note good manners and a healthy sense of humour along with a little consideration of others always go down well (no pun intended). So come on peeps what sort of things annoy or please you?
We know what you mean northy ... somethings up when people are leaving or taking breaks, we've considered it ourselves to be honest. It's all supposed to be about fun and laughs, but more and more we're seeing one extreme or the other ... it's either hi when can we meet with no interest in you as people ... or hi can we swap pics... or people being mean to others. Obviously I'm not referring to some of the fab peeps we speak to or other genuine people, but the fun seems to be missing. Maybe we should all lighten up a bit and treat it as fun, instead of an all consuming part of our lives (which some folk do). Ok thought for the day over lol ... good luck in whatever you do northy debs and paul xxx
