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"So my advice is to wait until a conversation is going that you feel you can jump into. " (Oliviak, May 2009)
Took me 3 years to edit that down to that line.. because that's what I say to everyone new - just wade on in there - NO-ONE will mind!
I've had nights where I've just sat there.. looked for an opening... chucked in something random.. and wa-hey!
It's not as clique-y as it may outwardly appear - like Oli said you just have to treat it like any other social venue. :beer:
See ya in there!!
Midgerley yours....
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Took me 3 years to edit that down to that line.. because that's what I say to everyone new - just wade on in there - NO-ONE will mind!
I've had nights where I've just sat there.. looked for an opening... chucked in something random.. and wa-hey!
It's not as clique-y as it may outwardly appear - like Oli said you just have to treat it like any other social venue. :beer:
See ya in there!!
Midgerley yours....
:rose: What's with all the negativity on this site lately? It's summer, the sun is shining, shouldn't we all be happy and enjoying ourselves?
I will freely admit that the chatroom can be clicky sometimes - OK maybe even more than just sometimes, but I think that could be because a very large proportion of people who go into the chatroom are chat regulars and many have all known each other in some way or another for quite some time.
When I first started going into chat no one talked to me at all and I was ready to give up. Then finally one or two of the regulars took pity on this lonely single girl and started talking to me. But that was only after I put in a lot of effort.
I have heard a lot of people moan in the past that no one talks to them in chat. But seriously, if all you do is go in there and say nothing but 'hi everyone' and then just sit there, say nothing else and expect everyone else to strike up a conversation with you then you are sorely mistaken.
I see the chatroom in the same way I see any other social situation. If you went to a party where you knew no one, or you moved house and discovered your new local pub, would you expect everyone to come up and say hello to you and start a conversation with you when all you have done is sit at the bar and sip your pint without making the effort? I think not.
Yes I do go in the chatroom and have a conversation with a friend in there in the open chat. But quite often I could be having 2 or 3 simultaneous conversations with other people as well. Sometimes the chat does move so quickly it is easy to miss an instance when someone has said hello to me directly or asked me something. And this happens to everybody. Rarely have I heard of anyone ignoring someone on purpose.
I personally always try and make the effort with newbies and say hello, as I was a newbie once myself (as we all were - even the golden oldies of SP), and know what it's like.
But SP is like anything else in life - you get out what you put in. So please stop all the moaning about 'no one talks to me' if all you do is sit in the chatroom watching everyone else chat while not joining in yourself. If you are new, of course you don't know anyone. So my advice is to wait until a conversation is going that you feel you can jump into. It's not like you would be interrupting because we all do it like that. And it does take some time to get to know new people, just like anywhere else.
So just dive in head first and enjoy!
OK off me soap box now. lol
Oli xxx
hi never had a rant be for but here gos : chat is far to clicky . everyone on this site as the same interest. ok some not so nice ..but if your in chat dont ignor just because your talking to ole buddy if you want private conversation go into private room sorry im pissed and talking bollocks lol
