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Bisexual Female, 76
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wow mad!! how bad is that!! i would be gutted if i had to get in contact with that many people i bet she now uses protection!
jamie good on ya for throwing thew bastard out that would do that to some one!
i hope these are both lessons that people will take notew of an in future think twice
for a woman( or only me) it dont feel any different having a cap on it ribbed are nice i must admit lol but it dont make any difference to me, for jim he says it dont make much difference to him either (having to put a dustbinbag over his massive cock) 
but in the spear of the moment he would still use it an yes he has been beggend not to!
but in the spear of the moment he would still use it an yes he has been beggend not to! I personally know of 3 separate people, within the swinging fraternity, who, in the past few weeks have all contacted STI's.
None use protection and they have all had to tell all sexual partners that they have contracted 'something nasty'
One I know has had to contact at least 30 different gentlemen and a few women!
Not using protection is NOT an option in our world. I've had men in clubs telling me tht they nevr use protection...... Bugger that!!!! No glove, no love.
I also know someone else who doesn't use protection and I would never never never met or entertain any person she has had ANY sexual contact with.
Unfortunately, as we move in the same circles, it is limiting my options severely.
However,I'd rather have my health than herpes (or worse)
:clap: lilly i no you are a dirty bitch but i would never ever swing without using protection!!!
i have a very happy life an many people in it that mean the world to me, so why risk it all for sex??
some people rather not use it but as you said each to there own, if people we met wanted to go 'raw' thats up to them but i hope that they would respect us enough to use it as thats what we want, an if they didnt, then thats there loss not mine!
safe sex is a must!!!
jena n jim xxxxxx
Well there are now nearly 80 people confirmed to come to leeds on Saturday ...it should be a great nite.
Me, missCC and several other folk will be in leeds Friday nite too and are planning on going for a meal then back to hotel bar. If you want to join us let us know, The hotel has rooms left for both Fri and Sat.
I am leaving on Friday morning so if u need any more info please get in touch b4 then OR leave a message on here and Andy will pass it on.
Oh and lastly, I dont like this people find me on sat in the hotel bar and give me their £1 , so I dont forget cos my brain will be mush by then. Ty.
Cant wait ......excited excited
Sue xxxxxxxxxxxx
Yep it does happen, and sometimes it is simply because there are so many peeps involved in their own chat, or the room is just very busy and posts get missed.
Don't take it to heart as I'm sure there is no other reason for you to have been ignored. I also think that, sometimes, peeps are just scared of saying hello; I found that if I got involved in conversations and just put on posts then peeps eventually got to know me and included me into their chats. 
Talking to people on a web site is hardly cheating as it does not involve any physical contact, however you are entitled to that opinion and I'm sure we all respect that. But please do not judge all men the same; there are also women that are guilty of being on here just for sex and nothing else. .
I am really sorry to hear about your experience, and it just proves that people get DO caught out - with very serious consequences for innocent parties. Your view is understandable and there is certainly no need for you to have to explain your meeting criteria to others.
I did not intend to re-open this forum topic, just draw an end to it and inform people that I had, in fact, changed my profile to reflect my own position.
As a simple person, I see the 'married or attached' person very simply....
It's cheating.
If a married or attached person is on here (for whatever reason) and they do not have the partners permission or they choose not to tell the partner for whatever reason....... its cheating.
Also, in the case of many many single men and attached males.... they don't want to swing... they just want sex.
Nothing to do with parties, orgies, 3sums, swapping etc... they just want sex. That is NOT swinging.
I'm an over simplistic old heffer but that's my out look on the situation.
I have a reason for thinking like this..... ONCE and only ONCE did I meet someone and his friend for a 3sum. Both (apparently) single.
One wasn't.... his wife found my mobile number and I was harrassed and stalked for months. I had a knife pulled on me and quite frankly, it stopped me swinging for nearly 2 years. Women (more than men) are totally unpredictable when they find out what their partners have been up to and very rarely listen to the 'other' womans side of the story.
I've also been cheated on and the pain and humiliation it caused me were beyond bearable some days. I would NEVER want to put another woman in that position.
End of story, but for those that do berate me for being so stringent on my meeting criteria..... I've got a good excuse for being cautious.
Hi there, I have never done this before, although I have had threesomes with a couple of friends of mine. I am 50 and in a really boring marriage. I feel that I need to spice up my sex life, as my hubby works away. I am willing to try anything new, so I thought I would give this a try and see what happens
I have just read through most of the posts and ,low and behold, there are differences of opinion and misconstrued comments 
Some very valid points as well.
I can see two sides to the point raised by Kaynie and Jed in that yes you do have to be in a loving relationship to appreciate the whole purpose of swinging, it's not just about sex but involves both love and trust. On the other hand some people might believe that, if you are in such a loving and trusting relationship, you should not need to swing with others.
As for the single guys (and those that pretend to be) I can only say that if you're looking for a partner don't use the swinging scene, it's not a dating agency! Couples are into the scene because they have the kind of relationship Kaynie has described; the last thing they want is someone trying to break up that partnership. My wife takes the view that we should all be monogamous, otherwise the relationship is not worthwhile - a view I whole heartedly disagree with but accept.
When I first joined this site I was living on my own after having had a very brief affair (4 days to be precise) and my wife had had me tailed by a private investigator (yes they do still exist). One of the reasons I had that affair was because we had problems with our sex life; I decided that one way of satisfying my own libido without causing any further problems was to meet with swingers. I was wrong, but I have gained so much from being a member of this site I wouldn't want to leave. Hence the altered wording on my profile.
Sorry, ranted on a bit there but hope it explains my point of view; I love sex and I also love my wife - it is extremely difficult to make decisions which will ensure both of these are satisfied.
Some very valid points as well.
I can see two sides to the point raised by Kaynie and Jed in that yes you do have to be in a loving relationship to appreciate the whole purpose of swinging, it's not just about sex but involves both love and trust. On the other hand some people might believe that, if you are in such a loving and trusting relationship, you should not need to swing with others.
As for the single guys (and those that pretend to be) I can only say that if you're looking for a partner don't use the swinging scene, it's not a dating agency! Couples are into the scene because they have the kind of relationship Kaynie has described; the last thing they want is someone trying to break up that partnership. My wife takes the view that we should all be monogamous, otherwise the relationship is not worthwhile - a view I whole heartedly disagree with but accept.
When I first joined this site I was living on my own after having had a very brief affair (4 days to be precise) and my wife had had me tailed by a private investigator (yes they do still exist). One of the reasons I had that affair was because we had problems with our sex life; I decided that one way of satisfying my own libido without causing any further problems was to meet with swingers. I was wrong, but I have gained so much from being a member of this site I wouldn't want to leave. Hence the altered wording on my profile.
Sorry, ranted on a bit there but hope it explains my point of view; I love sex and I also love my wife - it is extremely difficult to make decisions which will ensure both of these are satisfied. [quote user=morkandmindy][quote user=sudsy]Mork and Mindy - funny, never had you guys down as trying to "catch out" single males before.
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We're not trying to catch anyone out Sudsy, just extremely curious. We're fascinated by peoples mind set when they get involved in this scene.
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This is a good topic and not too dissimilar from the one I posted, except in reverse ( no not :doggy: ). I joined the site to meet people, originally for sexual fulfillment but now I have changed my perception and like to chat with open minded adults.
From my point of view I don't know if I would be able to watch my partner with someone else, even though I do fantasise about it occassionaly. If I were in a new relationship it would be extremely difficult to continue swinging as I would want to keep that person to myself; unless, of course, I had met them through the swinging scene and we were both happy to continue.
Just another slant from a different angle 
). I joined the site to meet people, originally for sexual fulfillment but now I have changed my perception and like to chat with open minded adults.
From my point of view I don't know if I would be able to watch my partner with someone else, even though I do fantasise about it occassionaly. If I were in a new relationship it would be extremely difficult to continue swinging as I would want to keep that person to myself; unless, of course, I had met them through the swinging scene and we were both happy to continue.
Just another slant from a different angle Following all of the comments on this topic I decided it would be better to alter my profile. I am very interested in chatting to people, and have no wish to mislead or deceive anybody.
I hope that the topic has proved interesting to many members, even if they have not made any comments. I would like to thank those that did for expressing their views and opinions ; we are all different and that is what makes life interesting. :clap: :clap:
