I do agree with you aiglos. Its the ones who have been on here for years that I am talking about...not the newbies. I only say I am extra cautious because of the safety factor being a single girl.
My first meet in fact was with someone who had no comments and was relatively new and that went fantastically well. I can honestly say that I now consider him to be a very good friend.
But what it comes down to is following your instincts and take the usual precautions like chatting to someone on cam first and meeting in a public place etc.
But I would never discount someone jsut because they are new to the site as we are all new once.
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I'm afraid I'll have to disagree on this one. I'd certainly advise being cautious about any meet, but I wouldn't necessarily be [i]more[/i] cautious about someone without comments or who isn't established. Maybe it's because I'm looking at the situation from the other side; this is my second period on SP, and during the first, lasting six months or so, I received no comments myself, perhaps largely because I was never successful in arranging a meet or attending an event and therefore no-one had anything to comment on.
I'm not suggesting that anyone abandon their own rules about meeting people from the site, but if you're automatically suspicious of people who no-one's commented on before, you risk turning it into a self-perpetuating cycle in which no-one knew, especially single men, can break into the circle.
Honey let me ask you this... if you met a girl who you really liked and fancied, would you laugh at here if she had a bit of cellulite, a few stretch marks and a bit of a belly?? A decent person wouldn't. Because attraction is a lot more than just physical appearance...trust me.
Besides, EVERYONE (even supermodels) has something about their body that they do not like. If a person doesn't like you for who you are then they are not worth your time anyway.
We all (swingers included) come in all different shapes, sizes, colours etc. and it is our differences that make us unique.
So embrace these differences, be happy with what you have and have fun!
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Welcome to the site, there are lots of people all different shape and size's, so don't let that worry you. Just get to know people through the chatroom and be yourself and you will be fine. Meets don't happen over night so don't expect instant success as most people like to chat first and get to know you. Social events that members host through out the country is a good way to meet people and they can put a face to you as photographs and webcams don't always show the best side of you. Have a read of 'Chatroom tips for newbies' as this has alot of good information that will help you on your way. If your in the chat and have any problems with anything, even if you think its daft, just ask as we all were new once. The members that have gold stars next to there names are site moderators (Yes they like fun too), these will help you out.
Hope this has helped you out.
